Oh,
ag.
You
guys asked SO MANY MANY MANY QUESTIONS. And some of them were serious!
I
mean, hardcore life questions that I, as a (fictional) 17 year-old friendless
noboyfriend mental patient am in no way equipped to answer.
So
I need to say this to you before you read anything I wrote:
1.
Sorry if I couldn't answer yours. There were way more than I could manage,
because I have to apply for COLLEGE and a lot is going on for me on the
personal front that you will only find out about when the fourth Ruby Oliver
book -- Real Live Boyfriends -- comes out next year.
2.
I see a shrink. It's really not so bad.In fact, I strongly recommend it if you haveserious stuff going on in your life, or if you feel like
you're snapping.
3.
If you have questions about what it's like to go to therapy, read The Boyfriend
List,The Boy Book and The Treasure Map of Boys. You'll get some idea of what
the whole process is like.
4.
There were a lot of questions about writing. E. Lockhart (the author of all the
Ruby books) should answer these, and maybe you want to look at her FAQ on her
website: http://e-lockhart.com/?page_id=14
5..
I can't tell you what choice to make, but protection protection protection. You're a fool if you don't use it, and
treat it like it's your job to bring it.
Okay.
Here are my answers!!
Love,
Roo
Secret
Name:
cut grass
My
question for Ruby:
why do boys often refers
to girls in derogatory terms?
Because they are Neanderthals.
Also, deep inside they feel unsure whether they are big strong manly manly
dudes or even worth anything at all.
Calling us crappy names
makes them temporarily feel superior.
Also, nobody taught them
any better.
I sometimes ask: "Did
your mama teach all her children to be sexists, or did she single you out
specially?"
Secret
Name:
polished boots
My
question for Ruby:
do boys see girls as real
people instead of as quests or hurdles to get over?
If they are worth anything,
they do.
Secret
Name:
Bobby Jo Jr.
My
question for Ruby:
Ruby, given the choice,
would you rather eat hundreds of Jesus marshmallows or chick marshmallows?
Bobby Jo, you obviously read
The Treasure Map of Boys, ,so you know I hate marshmallows.
If I had to eat them, I
would pick the chicks. I would TOAST them and eat them in S'mores.
Jesus S'mores would be too
disturbing.
Secret
Name:
Worried
Question for Ruby:
What does it mean when a
boy won't meet your eyes?
It means it is time to
look for a boy who will.
Secret
Name:
NEMO
My
question for Ruby:
Am I ever going to write
again???
I feel that I have lost my
talant :(
Yes, you are. Writing
involves long periods of not writing.
Secret
Name:
Secret Name #2
My
question for Ruby:
I'm afraid of needles. And
medical stuffins. I have to get my wisdom teeth out in a week. What can I do to
deal with my fear
Ag. Poor you.
Your might try some of the
techniquesDoctor Z taught me for
calming down when I'm having panic attacks.
I breathe deep and slow
andcount my breaths. I squeeze a
tennis ball in my hands or toss it back and forth from one hand to the other.
(This quiets the brain somehow. I have no idea how.) I listen to retro metal
and jump around. (Though retro metal may not work for you. But music with a
beat that's strong enough to be distracting).
Do you have headphones and
a music player? You can probably even bring it to the dentist ans wear it
during the procedure.
Secret
Name:
confused
My
question for Ruby:
I am don't know where to
take my girl friend on a first date and i live in a small town with no movie
theaters or good restaurant and I dont have my drivers licence, help?
Bowling is good. Picnic is
good.Nature walk.Have her over to your house and try to
make brownies.
Secret
Name:
wonderinwoman
My
question for Ruby:
My ex boyfriend keeps
leaving but he always comes back. I won't hear from him for months but he
always comes back. Is this a sign that it's meant to be and that we should get
back together?
-wonderinwoman
No. I am only seventeen
and have highly limited experience and even I can tell you that's a sign that
he is unreliable. Sounds like a recipe for angst and heartbreak to me.
Secret
Name:
Ms. Confuzzled
My
question for Ruby:
So, I like this one guy.
He's really funny, sweet and all that, total skater. I've known him for
probably 3 years now. He's my best friend and I don't know what I'd do without
him... we've had our ups and down, and let me tell you the downs aren't fun.
But there's also another
guy. I've known him for the majority of my life, he's also really funny and
sweet and when ever he's
touches me or is even
around me I get this weird feeling. He's a total country boy, cowboy boots,
plaid the whole 9 yard, and
he's got these amazing
brown eyes. He's as close as I think I can get to your... whatever your
imaginary boyfriend was, and
he's real. And I'm just
really confused, everyone that sees me with either tells me that they like me
or ask if we're dating, and
although the two don't
show open hostility I don't think they like each other very much, it's there,
but I think they try and hide
it for me... the latter
hiding it a little better that the other. But I don't know what to do, I like
them both, the country one a little
more maybe, but I'm afraid
that if I choose I'll end up losing one good friendship, or if I don't choose
soon, I'll lose both. I
know that you constantly
say that you're not the best one to be giving advice on this type of thing, but
what's your opinion, I
just need help.
Ag!
But not a bad problem to
have.
I have a question for you,
Ms. Confuzzled.Are you seeing these
guys as like, imaginary Tommy Hazard type boyfriends? Or are you seeing them as
people? People who might be dorky or nervous or sad or annoying sometimes?
I think you should try
hard to see the guys as people, 'cause when you start thinking a guy is a dream
boyfriend, the ending is not going to be pretty.
Also, I think you can kiss
the second guy, the country one, with no consequences really.
So why not try it and see
how you feel?
Secret
Name:
susan259
My
question for Ruby:
what should I do if my
best friend doesn't like me anymore?
Know that you are not
alone. I lost my best friend, too and it is complete agony.
There is nothing to do
except hold your head highand
look for new friends.
Secret
Name:
Running Down
My
question for Ruby:
I'm going to be going away
from home for the first time, going away to college four hours away. I've never
even been to summer camp, so I'm afraid that I won't know what to do without my
family around me. Any advice on how to cope?
- Running Down
I have never been away
from home either, but I asked my friend L. -- who just finished freshman year
at college. She says: "You will be so glad your parents arent there! Trust
me. Your college friends will become your family."
(I hope she's right!)
Secret
Name:
Agatha
My
question for Ruby:
Dear Ruby, I a senior in
high school and am considering colleges. My friend really wants me to go where
she goes, but I'm not sure if I want to go with her. I fell like I should make
the decision on my own and I don't want to feel like I copied her. What should
I do?
Make the decision on your
own. My friend L. (the college freshman) agrees. She says everything changes at
college and you have to go where there's stuff you want to study, sports you
like, the kind of campus and location you want, and all of that.
Secret
Name:
Luckless in Love
My
question for Ruby:
I've had a crush on the
same guy since I first met him three or so years ago. We've become friends and
he's invited me to some of his sporting events and asked me to dance, and he
went to a concert with me when I asked him. He always sends out such mixed
signals.. I don 't know if I should keep waiting or move on, or if I even CAN
move on. What should I do?
Kiss him.
(My college friend L says:
Dress up in high heels and lots of black clothes and maybe some leather. Act
really flirty and see what he does. She says she wishes she'd done that more in
high school.)
Secret
Name:
dudette
My
question for Ruby:
when did you have your
first kiss?
Ag, ag and more ag. It is
chronicled in all its slimy spitty detail in The Boyfriend List.
Secret
Name:
Gender Bender
My
question for Ruby:
I've heard both sides of
the argument: 1. It's the 21st century, it's totally okay for girls to ask out
guys. and 2. No matter how the times are changing, guys still love the thrill
of the chase. I am so confused!!! IS it okay for women to ask out men or is that
something that will always be taboo?
Ask him out. If the guy is
freaked out by it, he's not the guy for you. Who wants to go out with a guy who
is all about the chase? He'll just get bored quickly. And who wants to go out
buy a guy who's freaked out by a girl asking him?
Not me.
Secret
Name:
Lost
My
question for Ruby:
I got lost and thew my map
in the river how else can I return home, is a compass okay?
Dear Lost,
This was my favorite
question of all the questions.
Use a compas if you can. I
prefer to borrow Meghan's iPhone, which has a mapping thinggee on it.
Secret
Name:
friend-less
My
question for Ruby:
Hi Ruby, how do I make friends
with new people in camp?
Bring temporary tattoos.
Or maybe gum. Everyone likes a girl with gum.
(Please remember that I am
a leper when you take my advice!)
Posted Aug 23, 2009, 03:45:34 PM
