caramelpudding wrote:
Hi Lauren Kate,
I was thinking about "forbidden love" and was wondering:
Can two people really be in love if they aren't even friends? Or do you think true love stems from friendship?
Hey Caramelpudding--
This is a good question. I think that friendship is one of the most important aspects of love, but I wouldn't stay that true love necessarily stems from friendship. Of course, it can, but I don't think camaraderie is the only possible origin of love. I'm speaking from my most recent experience here. When I met my husband, I was instantly drawn to him, instantly attracted to him, and instantly intimidated by him. But we were never really friends until after we started dating. At the beginning, before I considered Jason a trusted friend, I wasn't in love with Jason the way I am now, but I was in love with him. I definitely fell for him romantically first and when our friendship came easily after that, I knew that this was it.
I understand why you're asking this, and appreciate the chance to get to answer it. So many love stories seem to skip the friendship stage, don't they? There's tension and drama and arguing and all sorts of things that make for good page-turning storytelling--while all the while, readers are crying out for some of those more down-to-earth elements that make us feel like we are really invested in a relationship.
Of course, in Fallen, I've complicated Luce and Daniel's initial romance by making it not really their initial romance. They have a very long and complicated history together that Luce has to spend a while uncovering. And (I'm starting to sound like a broken record here, but...) as the series goes on, I hope to prove how love and friendship really are intertwined in their story!
Posted Dec 26, 2009, 04:48:43 PM